Season 22 Ep 214: Fewer Stolen Sundays, Please | The Relief of Not Making Everything Work
Aug 23, 2026
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We tend to think a boundary is about saying "no".
But for capable, generous people, the better question is often:
What am I trying to make room for?
Because some of the hardest boundaries aren't with difficult people or terrible opportunities.
They're with good people. Good ideas. Things we could make work.
And that's exactly where we can start building lives around accommodation instead of choice.
The point of a boundary isn't the no. It's the better yes on the other side of it.
Boundaries are a bridge, not a wall.
They help us clarify what matters, communicate what we can sustainably offer, and create relationships where reciprocity has room to exist.
This week, Karlee flies solo to explore what she's calling the joy of boundaries, just ahead of The Boundary Academy's return this fall for the first time in two years.
In this episode, you'll hear a real-life boundary win that created a better outcome for everyone involved, why competence can quietly turn into over-accommodation, and how better boundaries can give you back time, energy, generosity, and yeses you actually mean.
If you've been treating “I can make it work” as proof that you should, this episode is for you.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
(00:00) The no that created a much better yes
(07:25) What boundaries actually give us back
(12:55) When capability quietly becomes accommodation
(15:50) How boundaries protect sustainable generosity
(18:42) Why boundaries are a bridge, not a wall
(23:26) The question to ask: what do you want more room for?
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Free Guide: Proven Boundary Scripts — free boundary scripts for real-life conversations, available for a limited time.
Program: Boundary Academy — returning this fall for the first time in two years.
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