Season 21 Ep 203: Why Everything Feels Urgent (Even When It Isn’t) | The Hidden Pattern Driving Rushed Decisions
Mar 30, 2026
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There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from moving fast and still ending up behind.
A decision gets made in a meeting, not because the moment demanded it, but because the agenda was full and the next thing was already starting. It felt like forward motion. Three weeks later, the team is back at the table, unpacking assumptions, redoing the work.
This is what unnecessary urgency looks like when it quietly becomes the operating system — and most of us are taught to run on it without ever consciously choosing it.
This week, Karlee opens a new short series on the unnamed forces that erode our clearest thinking and most grounded leadership. First up: unnecessary urgency — what's fueling it beneath the surface, how it disguises itself as competence, and what opens up when we trade false speed for genuine clarity.
In this episode, you’ll learn why your nervous system is wired to treat pressure like an emergency, how to tell the difference between a decision that genuinely needs to be made now and a question that deserves more time, and why awe, in the most unexpected, mundane, moments, turns out to be one of the most disarming leadership tools available to us.
If you’re ready to stop sprinting past your own best thinking and lead with the kind of steadiness that doesn't require cleanup, this episode is for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- (9:22) Why unnecessary urgency isn't a personal failing
- (11:48) How time pressure lowers the brain's threshold for certainty
- (14:10) Urgency-led vs. clarity-led leadership
- (20:40) Why awe expands perception when urgency narrows it
- (28:05) The structural layer: when urgency gets baked into the organization itself
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
ENROLL: The Heroic Leadership Journey
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Citations:
Rudd, M., Vohs, K. D., & Aaker, J. Rudd, M., Vohs, K. D., & Aaker, J. (2012). Awe expands people's perception of time, alters decision making, and enhances well-being. Psychological Science, 23(10), 1130–1136.
Keltner, D., & Haidt, J. Keltner, D., & Haidt, J. (2003). Approaching awe, a moral, spiritual, and aesthetic emotion. Cognition & Emotion, 17(2), 297–314.
Gordon, A. M., et al. Gordon, A. M., Stellar, J. E., Anderson, C. L., McNeil, G. D., Loew, D., & Keltner, D. (2017). The dark side of the sublime: Distinguishing a threat-based variant of awe. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 113(2), 310–328.
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