Season 13 - Ep 141: Feel Like You're Never Doing Enough? | How to hack the comparison complex and find more joy

Mar 03, 2024

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What is enough, exactly?

Who decides when you've achieved it?

A mile-long list that needs to get done before you permit yourself to call it a day…sound familiar? Before you can kick off your shoes and relax on the couch or go for a run or get back to that book that’s been near-impossible to put down, your inner voice is laying down the guilt trip.

When all of those items don’t end up with a check next to them at the end of the day, they follow us to the places where joy is supposed to reside. Access to the things that refill our cup gets hijacked by incessant reminders that whatever we did get done, welp…sorry, it just wasn’t enough.

But that voice isn’t yours.

It’s the voice of comparison that’s keeping you up at night.

And you don’t have to listen to it anymore. 

This week, Karlee reveals the true source of those ‘not enough’ whispers that occupy our thoughts. Those societal cues only prevent us from reaching for the nourishment and replenishment that our bodies and minds need to thrive. It’s time to lasso that inner voice and fling it into oblivion. 

In this episode, you’ll learn why joy seems to always be at arm's length and how you can start to pull it inward. You’ll learn how a simple reality check can create space between your thoughts and actions, helping you make an informed choice about when, and if, the “thing” needs to be done. 

If you’re ready to mute the comparison complex so you can create space and amplify joy in your life, then this is the season for you. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • The thing that keeps getting in the way of joy (3:28)
  • Exchanging information overload for something simpler (5:18)
  • Where the feeling of ‘not enough’ comes from (7:21)
  • What’s really behind our tendency to compare ourselves to others (9:32)
  • A powerful move for breaking through the ‘do more’ thought loop (11:54)

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Book: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown 

Article: Seligman’s PERMA+ Model Explained: A Theory of Wellbeing

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Kara Lowentheil

Brene Brown

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