Episode 67: Boundaries Go Both Ways: How to Unearth Your Boundary Questions and Be an Ally to the World

Feb 15, 2021

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“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue.”

-Rainer Maria Rilke

Sometimes when our agenda goes off-track, we can default to viewing it as a disruption. But, if we change our perspective and become open to the flow of the collective conscience, the greatest gifts are waiting to be revealed. 

The contents of this episode are one of those gifts. 

When conversation is given the space to flow organically, you can hit on something powerful that’s been lying dormant. Through sisterhood and the collective embrace of vulnerability, that thought can finally break out of the mind and into the conversation. 

“Who am I in the world?”

This profound question surfaced recently in one of Karlee’s professional circles, and in today’s episode, she’s sharing that conversation with you. This episode features the wisdom of the Council of Boundary Makers, the advisory and support group helping to shape Karlee’s upcoming Boundary Academy

If we want to create healthy boundaries in our own lives, we can’t do that fully without flipping the coin and considering the boundaries of others that we, ourselves, might be stretching too far, or overstepping completely.

We have to become boundary allies. And that alliance starts with acknowledgment. 

It begins with truly looking at the ethics of being a human being on this planet. The very land we occupy can often have an unknown history buried beneath it. The people we love can have beliefs sitting within them that are so contrary to our own that we don’t know how to feel about it. We might think we know how to right the wrongs when we actually don’t understand the nature of the problem at all. 

“Where have I allowed harm to occur through not paying attention to something that was important?”

If you’re ready to live the questions and be a humble, participatory student of grace, then this episode is for you. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • The boundary bridge between doing it all and being a source of support (7:26)
  • Coming to terms with the realities of our roots (16:16)
  • How the boundaries we set for ourselves actually serve the greater good (18:27)
  • Acknowledging our complex histories and contributing to the conversation (22:01)
  • How to be a student of grace (27:21)

Resources Mentioned In This Episode: 

Boundaries Like A Boss - FREE Course

Episode 65: Feel Like Your Life Isn’t Your Own? How Women Are Building Bridges and Setting Boundaries Like a Bos‪s‬

Episode 66: Boundary Bravery: How Women are Giving Themselves Permission to Set Boundaries with Amy Ziegert

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