Episode 84: Feeling a Lack of Zest for Your Work? What’s sabotaging your professional mojo and what you can do about it

Jun 14, 2021

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One year ago today, we were dreaming of the future we’re in now. We shared a collective hope that in a year, we’d start to see the light at the end of this long, cloudy pandemic-fueled tunnel. We expected it to feel like a worldwide wave of joy and relief once the world began to open up again. 

But for a lot of us, the cloud hasn’t lifted completely. 

Sure, we’re happy the puzzle pieces of the lives we knew before are starting to find their places again. But, there still seem to be a few underlying emotions that we just can’t seem to shake. Feelings like sorrow and grief. 

We thought we’d have untangled ourselves from this by now...so, why are we still here?

When our foundations have been cracked, repairing those cracks requires acknowledgement. 

Because nothing really shifts without acknowledgement.

In this week’s episode, Karlee unearths a couple of the common leaks that spring up in the well of women's reserves, so that you can recognize the ones that might be accidentally draining your joy. She explains the relationship between joy and it’s necessary counterpart, sorrow, and reveals why trying to “turn it off” isn’t helping you move through the feelings of sorrow that need acknowledging. 

All of our emotions carry the same weight. Meaning, we can’t turn off the sticky ones without also turning off our ability to feel the emotions we want to feel. 

Joy can’t exist without sorrow. 

If you’re ready to acknowledge the sorrow you’re holding in your cup so that you can summon the joy behind it, then this is the episode for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • How your joy could be seeping out through the cracks (4:07)
  • The two types of joy (9:42)
  • Defining the dominant emotion of 2021 (11:34)
  • Understanding the relationship between joy and sorrow (15:13)
  • Universal harbingers of joy that’ll make you smile right now (23:23)
  • A simple practice for cultivating your daily dose of joy  (26:23)
  • Why authentic joy is two-sided (29:14)

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Dana Lemay

Adam Grant

Kahlil Gibran

Dr. Pamela King

Ingrid Fetell Lee

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Episode 83: What IS Joy, and Why Should I Care About it at Work?

Article: Grant, Adam. “There's a Name for the Blah You're Feeling: It's Called Languishing.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 19 Apr. 2021, www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html. 

LISTEN NOW: The Boundary Brunch 

Book: The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran 

Website: King, Pamela Ebstyne. “Pamela Ebstyne King.” The Thrive Center for Human Development, 8 May 2021, thethrivecenter.org/about/pam-ebstyne-king/. 

TED Talk: Where Joy Hides and Where to Find it with Ingrid Fetell Lee

Episode 1: One Word That Will Elevate Everything You Do

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