Episode 103: Expanding into Self: How to find authentic community and create deeper connections

Oct 25, 2021

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If you’re a human on this planet, you’ve likely found yourself in a situation or two where you’ve felt like an outsider. 

That feeling can inspire us to conform so that we fit the mold and gain acceptance. Or, it can push us further inward towards isolation. 

Either way, if we’re not experiencing deep bonds of acceptance that are based on who we really are, then whether we’re surrounded by “friends” or quietly tucked away in the shadows, we still feel alone.

As adults in the world, just like when we were kids on the playground, we’re always trying to fit in and find our tribes. The search for connection and community never stops. 

That’s because we, like the rest of nature, are in a constant state of evolution.

So, we should expect that our friendships, relationships, and the type of work we do will evolve, too. 

Whether it’s feeling alone in a sea of people or standing apart like a wallflower, the path to real connection is laid by leaning deeper into who we are. 

In this episode, Karlee explains why the concept of “fitting in” is more of an attempt to mold ourselves into being someone we just aren’t, and why instead, we should be expanding in order to find “our people”. She lays out the levels of friendship that we experience in various aspects of our lives, and invites you to consider which ones are continuing to nourish you and which ones it might be ok to loosen your grip on in order to create space for evolution.  She’ll also share 4 important questions you can ask yourself if you need a little push to help you move into what’s next.

If you’re ready to invite more authentic, nourishing connections into your life, then this episode is for you. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • 2 essential reasons why quitting is sometimes necessary (3:22)
  • Learning to expand rather than trying to fit in (8:42)
  • An example of the 3rd level communication that goes into making this podcast (15:37)
  • Evaluating how you experience the 4 levels of friendship (20:28)
  • 4 questions that will help you move ahead into what’s next (25:32)

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

Dana Lemay

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

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Article: Psychology Today. 2021. How Many Friends Do You Really Need in Adulthood?. [online] Available at: <https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201908/how-many-friends-do-you-really-need-in-adulthood> [Accessed 19 October 2021].

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