Episode 109: Are You Self-Stingy? How to stop skimping on your needs and receive the resources to THRIVE.

Dec 06, 2021

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We go through life doing a whole lotta things that we don’t really want to do. 

Laundry. Homework. “Work”-work. Taxes. 

Ok, so those things you actually do have to do. 

But, what about those other things you sort of just fall into doing or being responsible for? 

For example, was your career path something you thought deeply about, or did you just kind of fall into a job? And do you find meaning in the work you do, or does it leave you feeling like you need to hibernate for a few days as soon as you walk out the door? 

Or maybe the role you play among friends or family (“the mediator”, “the responsible one”, “the fixer” etc.)  is starting to wear you out. But, you’d feel really guilty if you just stopped being that person because people need that from you, right? So, you just continue to do it anyway.

The thing is...if you really carved out the time to reflect on what actually brings you joy, you might just find a way to align that with how you want to spend your days. Your career. Your family gatherings. 

In this episode, Karlee kicks off a short and sweet series with special co-host extraordinaire Anitza Martins. They’ll unpack the “equation for thriving” as defined by the field of Positive Psychology that explains what’s working for people who’ve managed to cultivate zest, joy, and passion, even in tough times.

Today, you’ll hear how letting go of unwanted expectations that aren’t serving you leaves more room to discover what might serve you better. You’ll learn a doable way to find space for pleasure in your days, and how that leads to deeper meaning. 

Meaning gives us purpose. And it has the power to transform the work you do, create positive changes within your relationships, and bring more joy to your human experience.

Those seeds just need space to grow. 

If you’re ready to stop skimping on what brings your life meaning and gift yourself more joy, then this is the episode for you. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • What the field of positive psychology calls the “equation for thriving” (2:53)
  • What it means when “tradition lays a trap” (6:48)
  • What if you struck when the iron was cold? (9:22)
  • Leaning into joy, even when times are hard (13:00)
  • Anticipating change and appreciating the small things (16:11)

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

The Boundary Academy

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Suzy Banks Baum

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