Episode 63: 2 Ways You’re Thinking Like A White Supremacist: How women are upgrading from overwhelm to focus right now

Jan 18, 2021

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There’s a stack of unanswered emails mounting in your inbox and more than a few text messages that you’ve pushed aside for “later”. There are calls you need to make, deadlines relentlessly flying out the window, and you’re living off of peanut butter and celery because you haven’t been to the grocery store in two weeks. 

How did it get to this point? You’re successful. You’re the one who always has her s**t together. 

Unfortunately, having it “together” doesn’t make you immune to OVERWHELM.

On top of it all, it’s hard to forget that it’s not just your world that’s being rocked right now. We’ve got bigger issues. There’s a pandemic that’s been raging for nearly a year, we just witnessed an attempted coup at the White House, and the threads of systemic racism and white supremacy are being exposed so vividly that being too “busy” or “uninformed” to address them won’t pass anymore. 

Ok, take a moment. Pause. Deep breath. We got you.

In this episode, Karlee is gonna help bring you down from the ledge. She’ll talk about the two most common extremist beliefs that almost all high achievers share, and how you can save yourself from the resulting feelings of overwhelm. She’ll also tell you how these very beliefs tie into the history of white supremacy. Finally, you’ll hear about a tried and true antidote that her clients have found to be the most effective way to get unstuck from that all too common feeling of “too much”. 

Throw your hands in the air, fall into a comfy chair, and let out your most powerful exhale of submission. It’s not ok, and we can do something about that. In fact, acknowledging what isn’t ok is our starting point for moving forward. 

Next comes rest. Recoup from that pressure you’ve been bearing. Tend to what needs to be acknowledged. Be real. Get vulnerable. Then, we get back out there, together.

We all know that self-care is essential, but we also know that it can’t come at the expense of progress. 

Take the time you need. But remember that we have to nurture each other by supporting the collective community. If we sink too deep into our own comfort, we get stuck, and others will pay the price for our inaction. 

If you’re ready to look at the world differently, find focus, and off-load that feeling of overwhelm once and for all, then this episode is for you. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • How our desire for comfort is sabotaging our need for connection (6:38)
  • Becoming a true kind of pioneer for change (8:42)
  • How being hyper-self-focused can become self-destructive (14:10)
  • Why extremism, in all of its forms, causes fragmenting (15:37)
  • The antidote to overwhelm (20:02)
  • Voices with insights and answers in the space of diversity, equity, and inclusion (21:37)
  • Why quick-fixes don’t work in the long run (23:13)

Resources Mentioned In This Episode: 

Parenting Like a Ninja: An Autism Mom's Guide to Professional Productivity by Faith Clarke

The Conscious Kid

People Mentioned in This Episode:

Faith Clark- The Melody of Autism on Facebook

Debra Kaufman

Luvvie Ajayi

Brittany Packnett 

Alicia Garza

Brené Brown

Connect With Karlee: 




Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media 

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