Episode 80: Have To Do It All Yourself? How women get aboard the “Allyship” and let a few key people and strategies bolster their professional success.

May 17, 2021

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How often have you turned down a lunch, happy hour, or  coffee invitation with another woman, personally or professionally, because you were just too busy? 

As much as you might feel like you’ve taken the high road and put work first, taking rain checks on social or work + social outings might actually be costing you in the long run. 

In fact, you’re probably looking at these outings the wrong way altogether. 

The number one indicator of a woman’s professional success is….oh, were you about to say “determination”, or “grit”? Those are up there too, but there’s something even more important. 

A tight group of female friends.

You read that right. It’s not about the resources you have or the hours you clock.  

It’s about connection. 

A.K. A  networking. And we should all be doing more of it...but not in big or fancy ways.

In today’s episode, Karlee goes full circle to reveal how successful women navigate the professional world in a way that’s refreshingly gender-specific. She points out the differences in the way men and women view money and power, and our contrasting motivations for obtaining them. She’ll also talk about the three obstacles unique to a woman's business or career, and the alternate paths to success that women are creating to push past them. 

For women rising through the ranks of a long male-dominated world, we still sometimes find that we don’t fit in. But what we do differently is actually our strength. 

If you don’t fit in, fit out.

We do that by leaning into who we are, and utilizing the tight-knit relationships we’re naturally gifted at creating. We ask for help. And we invest in other women by seeking out women-owned businesses and becoming mentors. 

Because we know that when one of us rises, we all rise.

If you’re ready to embrace your strengths and form powerful allyships that propel all women forward, then this episode is for you! 

What You’ll Learn in this Episode:

  • The scientifically validated need to network small (4:48)
  • 4 signs that you’re ready to build core professional allies (5:46)
  • Why networking is about quality, not quantity (15:14)
  • Diverging motivations for power between men and women (16:20)
  • The top 3 obstacles to women’s success (18:58)
  • 7 things you might be doing right (24:23)
  • Why some women aren’t moving up (34:19)
  • How to build an open network (36:05)
  • One way women can help other women rise (40:58)

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Dana Lemay

Kayla Stoner

Stephanie Kaplan Lewis

Raegan Moya-Jones

Sara Blakely

Stacey Abrams

David Rock

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Article: January 22, 2019 | By Kayla Stoner. Most Successful Women Surround Themselves with Other Womennews.northwestern.edu/stories/2019/01/most-successful-women-surround-themselves-with-other-women/.

Shop: Chez Mamie: https://www.instagram.com/chezmamiezurich.hb/?hl=en

Class: ENROLL NOW: The June 2021 Boundary Academy

Article: Wolfers, Justin. “Fewer Women Run Big Companies Than Men Named John.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 2 Mar. 2015, www.nytimes.com/2015/03/03/upshot/fewer-women-run-big-companies-than-men-named-john.html

Article: Hinchliffe, Emma. “In 2018, All Female Founders Put Together Got $10 Billion Less Than Juul.” Fortune, Fortune, 30 Jan. 2019, fortune.com/2019/01/28/funding-female-founders-2018/.

Survey: Deloitte Global Research Initiative: Understanding the pandemic’s impact on working women How employers can act now to prevent a setback in achieving gender parity in the workplace 

Article: Simmons, Michael. “The No. 1 Predictor Of Career Success According To Network Science.” Forbes, Forbes Magazine, 20 Sept. 2015, www.forbes.com/sites/michaelsimmons/2015/01/15/this-is-the-1-predictor-of-career-success-according-to-network-science/?sh=5330dfc6e829

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