Episode 97: The Boundary Bandwagon: How to make heart-driven decisions and connect with boundary-supportive community with Dana Lemay

Sep 13, 2021

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Your partner has had a tough week at work, so you stayed up late (even though you have an early conference call) baking their favorite cookies before sneaking them into a little heart-shaped box. 

Your best girlfriend is having relationship woes...again.  So you put down the novel you’ve been waiting to read all day so that you can be there for her, on the other end of the phone. 

Your boss needs you to be available Saturday to onboard a new client, so you reluctantly bow out of the picnic your new neighbors invited you to join that afternoon.  

You know there’s nothing you love better than a good night’s sleep, a great book, and getting outside. 

But this week, you’re not getting any of it. 

It’s true that we can’t control what happens outside of ourselves. 

But we can control what happens within ourselves. 

And conversations about boundaries start within ourselves. 

Today, Karlee welcomes Dana Lemay, the Head of School for the Boundary Academy. Dana is a real-life boundary pro who courageously left her “looks good on paper” career to find a life that represented more of what really mattered to her. In 2019, she founded the One-Minute Minimalist to help other women declutter the unnecessary and embark upon a more values-driven life experience. 

In this episode, you’ll learn how to discern whether a decision you’re making is being guided by your head or your heart. You’ll understand why that knowledge holds an important clue in pointing to where boundaries need to be drawn. And most importantly, you’ll learn how to set the emotional boundaries that need setting within your work, your family circles, and your friends.

Boundaries matter because it’s within that space where we’re able to nourish ourselves. 

If you’re ready to learn how how to engage more of your internal resources so that you don't get stuck in a cycle of self-doubt,  worry, or always saying “yes”, then this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • What it feels like to lead with your heart (14:02)
  • The physical sensation of a boundary being crossed (15:36)
  • Our human discomfort of not being in control (19:42)
  • Why rest takes courage (25:10)
  • How to be a one-minute minimalist (30:46)
  • One simple way to declutter your schedule right now (39:19)

People Mentioned in this Episode:

Nancy Levin

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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:


Episode 15: Building the Habit of Courage: How to stop enduring what drains you with Dana Lemay

Episode 32: Curing the Knee Jerk “Yes”: Doable Boundaries That Will Set You Free with Nancy Levin

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